Tips Pupuk Sifat Sabar

Assalamualaikum.

Hari ini saya nak bercakap tentang sabar.
Sabar ni bagus sangat2 (i am pretty sure you know that = =).
Tapi, senangkah nak pupuk sifat nih?
you know those kind of days where you say "eh, esok aku nak jadi orang yang sabar lah" and then the next day CHINNG!! you are a patient person?
Well, this isnt one of those days (so negative, yet so true).
Sabar ni, ambil masa untuk dipupuk.
Its not like a gift that someone can drop off on your doorstep.
mestilah ada usaha, ya tak? ^_^

People lose respect if you lose your temper

so, apa tips-tips nak pupuk sifat sabar ni? (or atleast for the time being, tahan dari lepas marah in the wrong ways).

1. Melatih diri untuk bersifat baik dan positif spt lemah lembut (and this doesnt apply only for perempuan, lelaki pun sama), baik hati, sabar, tenang dlm menghadapi apa2 situasi.

i am sure we often find ourselves in tight situations, ones that put stress on us. take a deep breath and SABAR.
don't let it ruin your day. Jangan jadi moody, nanti kalau ada yang terasa dengan sikap kita yang macam tu, ken susah. Dah tambah satu masalah lagi.
One thing that i have learnt through experience is that you can't always act out based on how you feel. Just because you had a bad day, doesnt justify getting all cranked up over hal yang kecil-kecil.

why this picture? coz i like it. ^_^

Instead, find a way to express your emotions.
I usually resolve to writing poems and drawing. Back in college, i would let it go during taekwondo meetings. =D
Kalau nak lagi elok, baca al-quran. lagi bagus. ^_^ sejuk hatii.
Yes, it does help, though sometimes not entirely. like i always say, something is better than nothing.

Tak berbaloi marah-marah ni. =)

Something i've discovered, kalau rasa macam nak marah-marah, senyum. insyaAllah rasa lagi baik.
research has shown, anger only lasts for a few short minutes, the rest is just emotions. bisikan syaitan mungkin?
jadi bertuturlah menggunakan kata-kata yang elok, jiwa pun mudah tenang.

2. be strong. when you feel angry, remind yourself about the bad outcomes of expressing anger the wrong way. cuba ingat-ingatkan diri kembali tentang kebaikan bersabar dan memaafkan kesalahan orang lain.

kalau kawan merajuk, ken dah susah kena pujuk.

mungkin kita rasa tergerak untuk marah-marah, tapi, jangan.
how many times have you thrown a rampage and felt bad about it afterwards?
how many times have you decided to forgive someone and realised that it was only a small matter to get angry about?
almost all the time isnt it?
Lagi pun, nanti menjejaskan tali silaturahim pula.
If everybody in the world melayan je rasa marah tu, friends would turn into enemies, married couples would be divorced, brothers and sisters would be killing each other (especially this one =.=).
so, bersabarlah.

3. berdoalah kepada Allah supaya menjauhkan kita daripada godaan dan bisikan syaitan.

i think this one is self-explanitory.
accept the fact, without Allah, we are nothing.
He is always there, even when we arent.
He will listen to us.
PRAY, PRAY and PRAY.

4. ambil wudhuk.

jangan membazirkan air

Praktikkanlah cara berwudhuk yang sempurna.
Ada banyak manfaatnya.
Kalau marah, hati tak tenang, cepat2 pergi lari ke bilik air untuk ambil air wudhuk.
Biasakan. Tak susah kalau kita percaya. ^_^







ps: ada ilmu, kita amalkan. insyaAllah.