Niqab Q&A : Experiences and Opinions

Assalamualaikum.

Determined not to ramble.
Just going to answer a few questions regarding the niqab.
Questions are in random order and not organised.

What is the niqab?
The niqab is a piece of cloth used to cover the face (usually of a Muslim woman).

Why did you start wearing the niqab?
I was always attracted toward the idea of the niqab. The idea of me wearing a niqab was one of those ideas that remained at the back of my head. I put it off thinking I was not ready for it.
Seribu satu alasan.
Ilmu tidak mencukupi.
Yada yada yada.
One day, I just decided, okay, "Today is the day".
I find with most resolutions, it's best to just go for it.
What's there to lose anyway?

How long did you wear the niqab since you no longer wear it?
I would say about two months. I will get into the reason why I quit wearing the niqab further on in this Q&A.
Not that I feel I need to justify my actions, I just have no problem stating the reason.

Do you think wearing the niqab is an obligatory practice?
No. I take it as a form of prostration towards Allah. I was not forced into wearing the niqab.

How did you go about implementing the niqab?
Going into this, I had pre-decided that I would not wear my niqab in certain situations.
I would take off my niqab when I wanted to eat.
At the time I started wearing the niqab, I was under a hospital attachment program.
I would take my niqab off as soon as I arrived at the hospital.
I was also still a student at INTI IU (where muslims are a minority) and I would take the niqab off when I was in class.
I am not one of those people that believe the execution of the niqab is without flaws. It is important to acknowledge certain limitations when deciding to wear the niqab.
I understood fully that some people would find it uncomfortable and in some situations, the niqab would make communication harder.

Do you have an obsession with people not seeing your face/are you shy?
No. I don't really mind people seeing my face.
If I were one of those people that stayed at home 24-7 or went to lectures and back to my room as a continuous cycle, I probably would not have started wearing the niqab.
I go out a lot (NOT TO PAR-TAYH OKAY).
Pandangan itu semestinya perlu dijaga and sometimes, it just happens. And I'd like to prevent that.
Am I shy?
Hmm. Not really.
Most people think I'm in between.
Not super outgoing but not shy either.
I'd say I'm more reserved.
I'm more of a listener than a talker.

What is the difference between part-time niqabis and full time niqabis?
Part-time, is more like what I did (I don't think 2 months justifies calling myself a niqabi).
Full-time, is what it sounds like. They wear the niqab full-time (don't be silly, not when they are sleeping).

What is a common perception about part-time niqabis?
Hypocrites.
Undecided.
"Wear it at all times, or don't wear it at all"
Some people accept it. Some people don't.
Depends on whether you think it is obligatory or not.
I personally do not think that doing the niqab part-time is a mockery to Islam.
Islam does not burden it's followers.

How did people react to you wearing the niqab?
Alhamdulillah. Most went well. I find the men's gazes would not last as long.
My friends supported me. I'm thankful for that.
Some people weren't so kind. "You're not pretty enough to be wearing the niqab."
Yeah, but people say hurtful things all the time. Doesn't make them right.
My opinion is, kalau orang yang cantik itu sehingga boleh mendatangkan fitnah kepada mata yang memandang adalah lebih digalakkan memakai niqab TETAPI tidak ada syarat bahawa anda harus secantik supermodel mana-mana untuk dibolehkan memakai niqab.
InshaAllah, Allah terima segala usaha kita untuk dekat kepada-Nya.

Did you feel uncomfortable wearing the niqab?
It was pretty hot and sauna-ish the first two days.
Then I got used to it and felt comfortable after that.
I guess it depends on what country you live in.
I live in Malaysia so it's like 32 degrees Celsius most days.
In colder climates, I don't think there would be much adjusting.

Why did you stop wearing the niqab?
I was put in a situation where an official (not the police don't worry haha) claimed to have received a complaint due to security issues about the-yeah you guessed it-niqab.
I'd expect something like this in a different country (not naming here) but Malaysia?
Malaysia might not be an Islamic country but the majority of it's citizens are muslims.
I guess I expected less prejudice.
So, yeah, the incident upset me to the point where I couldn't put on the niqab without feeling some sort of disappointment.

After wearing the niqab, how did it feel to take it off?
Kind of neutral. Kind of not. I kind of missed it.
It felt so liberating to put the niqab on.
Taking it off, just felt, blehh.
Tapi angin sampai lah sikit dekat muka. ;D

Pros and cons of wearing the niqab?
Pros: jaga pandangan, mengingatkan kepada Allah, no need to wear sunscreen, just felt peaceful and guarded.
Cons: may face prejudice, uncomfortable at first, some communicational limitations.

Would you wear the niqab again someday?
Yes. I've always kind of gravitated towards it. It's a constant reminder of Allah and as a humble forgetful servant, I need constant reminding. SO, PERFECT MATCH.

That's it for now.

Email any questions you have regarding this topic or any other topic to amisamsuri@yahoo.com or contact me on Facebook and I'll be sure to help you with all that I can.

Tweedle-dee Tweedle-dum,
Assalamualaikum!

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This Is Sparta (Maybe).

Assalamualaikum

I'm a Bio student. I learn about natural selection.
Of course, we learn about fish and moths and other creatures.

I don't know about you, but I can't relate to fish or moths. I don't have gills and I don't have wings.
So, I find human natural selection far more interesting.This

It isn't as boring as it sounds. I promise. ^_^

How does this natural selection happen?
Simple, those that are on top, survive.
Not just rich on-top, ANYTHING ON-TOP.

Now, am I bringing good or bad news? Depends. Let's discuss (well, I'll just do all the discussing and if you have anything to say, comment ^_^)

The most controversial 'anything' is looks
Studies have proven that people that are good-looking have higher chances of survival.
Bitter truth but a truth nonetheless.
You might think, 'hey, that's not fair. We are born with our looks. We can't change it.'
And generally, this is true.
Fair or not, that's what you have. That's what you have.

How, you ask?
There are many ways.
#1 People who are good-looking tend to get granted favours more often/receive help more often.
Sad, but a fact. In public transports, guys give their seats more often to pretty women than average-looking women. You get free coffee (not so common in Malaysia). When I was growing up, my sister was the cute, doll-like, big-eyes, good hair one.
I was the one with the bad teeth. =.= (smiled like a cursed goat for years).
She always got free toys and stuff from people at the car-boot sales.

Don't get me wrong. I got gifts too. I just had to cry for them. :D
A skill acquired after so many years of practice.

#2 People who are good-looking get richer mates.
Simplified, the likeliness that they would starve to dead is close to zero.
They get better medication.
They live in more comfortable conditions.

#3 People who are good-looking get jobs more easily (this is arguable).
 Just an example.
Who was the popular guy/girl in high school that got all the votes and got all the positions?
More often than not, they were in a way, attractive/good-looking.

Never underestimate sexual attraction (if you thought I was being dirty, shame on you =.=)
Pretty people don't like to admit it, but have you ever been average enough to tell?

Now, don't go lashing out on me. I am not saying they have things easy because that is not the case.
Think of it as building the perfect person.
You programme them to have certain characteristics.
Looks, physique, that's just one. 
But to say it does not play a part at all? 
Now, honey, that's denial.

Another trait is wealth.
Eg:
Mr. Smith is worth $4 billion. He earns money through intelligence (designing software, selling custom made locomotive parts etc) And genes play a part in intelligence.

As we discussed on top, richer people are more prone to have an attractive spouse. His wife, Anna is a model, dead gorgeous. 

Furthermore (Oh God, we're using these now), Mr Smith has money to pay for a better education.

They get gorgeous babies. And of course, since the babies inherit the wealth, they become gorgeous AND rich AND smart. A deadly combo. And the cycle continues.
Another explanation to why richer people tend to be better looking/smarter. Vise versa.

Plus points:
-get better medication.
-more chance of having kids (passing down genes). Can pay for IVF whatnot.
-live better
-better nutrition (though nowadays they practice the more-money=more-expensive-crap-that's-bad-for-us principle)
-environment doesn't have third-world-country diseases.



Trait : Intelligence
Some people have a head-start and have better genes (you better pray and thank God if you are blessed in this department because I will smack your head out of jealousy).
But now, now, no need to get arrogant. You may have an IQ of 700 but tis no reason to feel comfortable.
And the rest of you, no need to feel discouraged.

"A person that can read but does not read has no advantage over a man that cannot read."

Get what I'm saying?
Yeah, we can't do nothing about genes but acquired knowledge is just as good.
Learn, study, read. Do whatever. Work hard.
It pays off.

Natural selection does happen in humans.
There are more factors of course than what I mentioned but the point is, there are LOADS of factors.
Some we can control and manipulate, and some we can't.
Stop moping over what we can't change and start doing something about what we can change.

See, it's not so shallow to want to be rich.

This is (not) SPARTA!!!

Remember, you aren't only fighting for your survival. You are also fighting for the survival of your young (who don't exist yet but that is besides the point).

Survival is more than just hacking a person's head off for a piece of bread (pray we don't reach that stage).
The little things. They're more subtle and seem petty.
I guarantee you. It is anything but.

Tweedle-dee Tweedle-dum
Assalamualaikum.

Ami

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